I am getting married soon and was wondering which is the best shop to have my wedding list in?
I can’t give you a direct answer to that as there are too many really lovely shops to choose from. I would attack it from a different angle. There are things you will have seen and love and I would mention them to family – they will mean a lot to you and if they are a little more expensive, a couple of them can club together without embarrassment. You must also include a shop that has good inexpensive things that work colleagues and older guests can feel at ease purchasing something you have asked for without breaking the Bank! Good Luck.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Bag and Baggage
I’m separated with three children and for the last year I have been dating a good-looking older man who has never been married. I like him very much but don’t love him. He has taken me on some wonderful holidays, out to dinner etc. and we do enjoy each other’s company very much but I haven’t introduced him to any of my family or friends. There’s just something stopping me but I don’t know what. I wonder should I give him up?
Why? This seems a very odd decision to make since you say you enjoy each other’s company so much and from your letter – separated with three children – you are probably not in the first flush of youth yourself! This man sounds like he knows how to have a good time and instead of thinking about yourself, how about thinking about him for a change. You come with baggage, three children and an ex husband and yet he likes you enough to stick around. I see from your address you live in Wicklow – what I and our readers would like to know is where you socialise which enables you to feel that you are going to replace this generous man so easily! Believe me, you drop him and he won’t be available for long and you will be left wondering why you didn’t hold on to this treasure who took you on holidays and showed you a good time. Remember the old saying ‘ Better an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave’! The not telling your family and friends about him makes me wonder what is REALLY going on?
Why? This seems a very odd decision to make since you say you enjoy each other’s company so much and from your letter – separated with three children – you are probably not in the first flush of youth yourself! This man sounds like he knows how to have a good time and instead of thinking about yourself, how about thinking about him for a change. You come with baggage, three children and an ex husband and yet he likes you enough to stick around. I see from your address you live in Wicklow – what I and our readers would like to know is where you socialise which enables you to feel that you are going to replace this generous man so easily! Believe me, you drop him and he won’t be available for long and you will be left wondering why you didn’t hold on to this treasure who took you on holidays and showed you a good time. Remember the old saying ‘ Better an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave’! The not telling your family and friends about him makes me wonder what is REALLY going on?
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Pet Training
I haven’t had a man in my life for some years now and my friends keep insisting I am too fussy and suggesting that a woman is somehow not complete without a man on her arm. I thought I was quite happy without one – your thoughts…
You sound like an intelligent woman who knows what she wants without me giving you any advice but if it will make you feel better, my thoughts are – men are like puppies, some cute, some not so cute. They cause a lot of mess and keep you awake at night but if you find one you like and with the proper training………
You sound like an intelligent woman who knows what she wants without me giving you any advice but if it will make you feel better, my thoughts are – men are like puppies, some cute, some not so cute. They cause a lot of mess and keep you awake at night but if you find one you like and with the proper training………
Lying Eyes
My husband has just admitted he has cheated on me for the second time and although the affair had lasted for some time he has now finished it and he is sorry, it was a mistake and he won’t do it again. The thing is, these are all the excuses he gave me the last time this happened and I believed him. Would I be mad to forgive him again or should I finish for good, I really don’t know what to do.
It really depends on how much you love him, your quality of life and how much you are willing to put up with. In my eyes, forgiving him the first time shows a lot of love and understanding. Forgiving him a second time is merely rewarding bad behaviour, the first time he cheated was the difficult one for him, taking the risk – after that it’s easy, especially when you have been forgiven once already. Don’t forget, a sad and depressed wife is just no match for a jolly, flirtatious mistress who stares lovingly into his eyes over dinner – that’s your housekeeping she’s eating! A man who has cheated once and has been forgiven is far more lightly to stray again. A man who has been forgiven twice …… how about we try a little self-respect? Sometimes a good settlement is better then a bad marriage!
It really depends on how much you love him, your quality of life and how much you are willing to put up with. In my eyes, forgiving him the first time shows a lot of love and understanding. Forgiving him a second time is merely rewarding bad behaviour, the first time he cheated was the difficult one for him, taking the risk – after that it’s easy, especially when you have been forgiven once already. Don’t forget, a sad and depressed wife is just no match for a jolly, flirtatious mistress who stares lovingly into his eyes over dinner – that’s your housekeeping she’s eating! A man who has cheated once and has been forgiven is far more lightly to stray again. A man who has been forgiven twice …… how about we try a little self-respect? Sometimes a good settlement is better then a bad marriage!
Gay Daze
My only son who is 24 has just admitted he is gay and I am devastated. We live in a country area and I am so embarrassed anyone will find out. How can I talk him out of it?
Being Gay is not something you talk someone out of – you are Gay or you are not. I am sure it took a lot of courage and soul searching for him to finally admit how he felt – after all, it is a whole lot easier to be straight and tow the party line. It’s a pity that the one person he obviously felt close enough to confide in – his mother – should react in such a negative way. Yes it’s a shock but it is hardly the end of the world. Imagine if instead he had told you he had a terminal illness or had killed someone – now that would be a REAL problem. He has to face friends and neighbours and who knows – he may not be the only Gay in the Village!
Being Gay is not something you talk someone out of – you are Gay or you are not. I am sure it took a lot of courage and soul searching for him to finally admit how he felt – after all, it is a whole lot easier to be straight and tow the party line. It’s a pity that the one person he obviously felt close enough to confide in – his mother – should react in such a negative way. Yes it’s a shock but it is hardly the end of the world. Imagine if instead he had told you he had a terminal illness or had killed someone – now that would be a REAL problem. He has to face friends and neighbours and who knows – he may not be the only Gay in the Village!
Monday, August 23, 2010
Playtime?
My boyfriend wants me to start wearing naughty knickers etc. I feel uneasy.
Oh, do tell. What’s the etc. and why do you feel uneasy? Are you frightened of yourself or him and what you might do? Clearly he feels things need spicing up and how nice of him to suggest options instead of simply trading you in for a more interesting model. Not happy – please release him to a more appreciative female audience!
Oh, do tell. What’s the etc. and why do you feel uneasy? Are you frightened of yourself or him and what you might do? Clearly he feels things need spicing up and how nice of him to suggest options instead of simply trading you in for a more interesting model. Not happy – please release him to a more appreciative female audience!
Time out?
I’m in a living hell. For years I have been supportive to my delusional husband, he is a good man but a lousy businessman refusing to see the dead end we have been travelling up for years. The business is a bottomless pit swallowing up every cent and now we are in jeopardy of losing our house in an effort to keep the business going. I have begged him to give it up but he will not listen. I’ve had enough.
Sounds to me like you have given it your best shot against all the odds and that things can only get worse in this present climate so, if you have truly considered all your options, I would start thinking of yourself. Jump ship before the whole lot comes tumbling down. You have given him every chance and at least this way you will only be thought of as the wife who couldn’t cope rather than the bitch who baled when things went down the tubes!
Sounds to me like you have given it your best shot against all the odds and that things can only get worse in this present climate so, if you have truly considered all your options, I would start thinking of yourself. Jump ship before the whole lot comes tumbling down. You have given him every chance and at least this way you will only be thought of as the wife who couldn’t cope rather than the bitch who baled when things went down the tubes!
Manners maketh the man
Am I alone or do any of your other readers find the rudeness on our roads unacceptable?
Unacceptable? It’s bloody disgraceful. Having lived abroad for many years - leaving Ireland as the land of a hundred thousand welcomes, Saints and Scholars and leprechauns – I returned to a Celtic Tiger who in its rush to fill up the coffers to overflowing, banished any semblance of manners not only on the roads but everywhere else as well. Why, I thought, don’t the parents teach their children good manners, only to find that, in a lot of cases, it was the little old ladies who pushed past without so much of a backwards glance never mind a thank you when I opened a door or offered a seat! Fit to kill and unwilling to embrace this new rude culture I decided to make a game out of it by each day counting just how many rude piggy’s I encounter roaming loose on our city streets.
Unacceptable? It’s bloody disgraceful. Having lived abroad for many years - leaving Ireland as the land of a hundred thousand welcomes, Saints and Scholars and leprechauns – I returned to a Celtic Tiger who in its rush to fill up the coffers to overflowing, banished any semblance of manners not only on the roads but everywhere else as well. Why, I thought, don’t the parents teach their children good manners, only to find that, in a lot of cases, it was the little old ladies who pushed past without so much of a backwards glance never mind a thank you when I opened a door or offered a seat! Fit to kill and unwilling to embrace this new rude culture I decided to make a game out of it by each day counting just how many rude piggy’s I encounter roaming loose on our city streets.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
On The Shelf
I am in my late forties and have never been married. I really feel down and feel I have missed out. Can you give me any words of consolation?
The words of consolation I would offer you are these; you have only missed out if you had managed to trap one of those oh so elusive good looking, well to do, kind and considerate men who love children and who would think of you and his children before himself. Now, in reality we know that rather too many of those pre 1960s Irish Mammies left us with a crop of narcissistic, lazy, sport loving gentlemen who think they are doing the girlies a favour allowing them to move into their homes to wash, cook and clean for them while they are down at the pub with the mates for little or no thanks or remuneration – money for the groceries is not what ladies are looking for in wedded bliss – it takes more! It is a lot more difficult to survive in this world on your own with one salary and no back up, so take a pat on the back and congratulations on making it – you could have been dividing up your hard earned worldly possessions at this stage!
The words of consolation I would offer you are these; you have only missed out if you had managed to trap one of those oh so elusive good looking, well to do, kind and considerate men who love children and who would think of you and his children before himself. Now, in reality we know that rather too many of those pre 1960s Irish Mammies left us with a crop of narcissistic, lazy, sport loving gentlemen who think they are doing the girlies a favour allowing them to move into their homes to wash, cook and clean for them while they are down at the pub with the mates for little or no thanks or remuneration – money for the groceries is not what ladies are looking for in wedded bliss – it takes more! It is a lot more difficult to survive in this world on your own with one salary and no back up, so take a pat on the back and congratulations on making it – you could have been dividing up your hard earned worldly possessions at this stage!
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