Thursday, September 30, 2010

To Have and to Hold

I am getting married soon and was wondering which is the best shop  to have my wedding list in?
 
I can’t give you a direct answer to that as there are too many really lovely shops to choose from. I would attack it from a different angle. There are things you will have seen and love and I would mention them to family – they will mean a  lot to you and if they are a little more expensive, a couple of them can club together without embarrassment. You must also include a shop that has good inexpensive things that work colleagues and older guests can feel at ease purchasing something you have asked for without breaking the Bank! Good Luck.
 
 

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Bag and Baggage

I’m separated with three children and for the last year I have been dating a good-looking older man who has never been married. I like him very much but don’t love him. He has taken me on some wonderful holidays, out to dinner etc. and we do enjoy each other’s company very much but I haven’t introduced him to any of my family or friends. There’s just something stopping me but I don’t know what. I wonder should I give him up?
Why? This seems a very odd decision to make since you say you enjoy each other’s company so much and from your letter – separated with three children – you are probably not in the first flush of youth yourself! This man sounds like he knows how to have a good time and instead of thinking about yourself, how about thinking about him for a change. You come with baggage, three children and an ex husband and yet he likes you enough to stick around. I see from your address you live in Wicklow – what I and our readers would like to know is where you socialise which enables you to feel that you are going to replace this generous man so easily! Believe me, you drop him and he won’t be available for long and you will be left wondering why you didn’t hold on to this treasure who took you on holidays and showed you a good time. Remember the old saying ‘ Better an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave’! The not telling your family and friends about him makes me wonder what is REALLY going on?

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Pet Training

I haven’t had a man in my life for some years now and my friends keep insisting I am too fussy and suggesting that a woman is somehow not complete without a man on her arm. I thought I was quite happy without one – your thoughts…


You sound like an intelligent woman who knows what she wants without me giving you any advice but if it will make you feel better, my thoughts are – men are like puppies, some cute, some not so cute. They cause a lot of mess and keep you awake at night but if you find one you like and with the proper training………

Lying Eyes

My husband has just admitted he has cheated on me for the second time and although the affair had lasted for some time he has now finished it and he is sorry, it was a mistake and he won’t do it again. The thing is, these are all the excuses he gave me the last time this happened and I believed him. Would I be mad to forgive him again or should I finish for good, I really don’t know what to do.



It really depends on how much you love him, your quality of life and how much you are willing to put up with. In my eyes, forgiving him the first time shows a lot of love and understanding. Forgiving him a second time is merely rewarding bad behaviour, the first time he cheated was the difficult one for him, taking the risk – after that it’s easy, especially when you have been forgiven once already. Don’t forget, a sad and depressed wife is just no match for a jolly, flirtatious mistress who stares lovingly into his eyes over dinner – that’s your housekeeping she’s eating! A man who has cheated once and has been forgiven is far more lightly to stray again. A man who has been forgiven twice …… how about we try a little self-respect? Sometimes a good settlement is better then a bad marriage!

Gay Daze

My only son who is 24 has just admitted he is gay and I am devastated. We live in a country area and I am so embarrassed anyone will find out. How can I talk him out of it?



Being Gay is not something you talk someone out of – you are Gay or you are not. I am sure it took a lot of courage and soul searching for him to finally admit how he felt – after all, it is a whole lot easier to be straight and tow the party line. It’s a pity that the one person he obviously felt close enough to confide in – his mother – should react in such a negative way. Yes it’s a shock but it is hardly the end of the world. Imagine if instead he had told you he had a terminal illness or had killed someone – now that would be a REAL problem. He has to face friends and neighbours and who knows – he may not be the only Gay in the Village!